Why do Asian American women date White men? The usual answer is that many Asian American women feel that dating a person with whom they identify as a different gender enhances their self-worth. Asian American women date White men because they view it as a way of “re-birthing” their own cultural identity. However, recent research cast these passive victims as proactive seductions, purposely engaging with the white male hegemonic masculine to challenge the male hierarchy of their home culture. While at the same time, many other Asian cultures are actively looking for more diverse partners.
In an age where Asian girls dating western men is so common, it is easy to understand why the asian-american perspective on this trend is still a bit misunderstood. Most Asian girls view Asian guys as weak and begging. This stems from the traditional gender roles that are still widely practiced in Asian communities. Many asian-american women are also raised in homes where strong gender roles are taught.
Strong gender norms discourage Asian females to openly display affection in public. This is in stark contrast to the western world where dating and relationships between western men and Asian females are the norm. Asian females may, however, date white males who are not only physically attractive but confident in their social skills and intellect. Being submissive to a foreign man comes naturally to the Asian male. He views it as his duty to provide for his Asian lover, but he does not view it as being degrading.
What makes this racialization so dangerous is that it pits one racialized gender against another. The Asian women are not even seen as human beings. Instead, they are seen as lesser human beings that are only concerned with their survival in the Asian culture. As long as the white man is providing for her family, then she will be fine with this racialized relationship.
This is the problem with Asian American females marrying Asian males. It’s not that they are not interested in the foreign man, but it’s that they view him as their prime mover, their leader, their tactician, and their provider. This makes them submissive. The Asian man views her as a sexual object that will do whatever he needs her to do, without asking her much in return. This makes the relationship very unstable.
Many Asian guys have tried to date outside their race by contacting and dating white women. However, they only get a little response from them because they are viewed as sexual objects. Most white women have the mentality that all Asian guys are only out to get sex. Even if some of them might be in it for the right girl, many of them still think that Asian guys can’t live up to their expectations.
This has created a big void in the Asian American community as to how to deal with interracial relationships. There are only a few well-established Asian men left in America. Most of them have been emigrating for some time. They don’t have any relatives or friends in America and they don’t really know how to date a white American woman.
Fortunately, there is a solution. It is called dating Asian women or dating interracial American men. These women are already racialized in their mind. That is part of what makes them so attractive to the western men. They already look different, even before they arrive on American shores.
You should start by going on a “date” to the local Asian supermarket. Most of the Asian males working there will be of a handsome building. Most of them will wear suits and ties. If you see a teen looking guy approach an Asian woman, you can be sure that he is of Asian descent. The majority of the yuen men are not aware that they are actually Asian men because of the way they speak and look.
The key to successful interracial relationships with Asian women is to get her to open up to you. You need to make sure she feels comfortable with you first. If she is comfortable enough to meet someone outside of your culture, then it is a possibility that she is also at ease with the idea of dating an American. The more comfortable she is regarding your culture, the easier it will be for her to introduce you to her Asian male friends who she knows.
In order to attract an Asian woman, you need to be confident of your abilities as well as your strengths. Dhingra, like all Asians, is very attracted to confident males. You must try to think like an Asian male so that she will eventually realize that you are fully capable of handling her. By using your Asian male privilege, you can show her what a strong man you can be and how strong her heart is. Once she is ready to open up to you, there is a good chance that she will find someone that shares her racial background with her.